To say that man is created in the image and likeness of God means that man is called to exist "for" others, to become a gift. --John Paul II, Mulieris Dignitatem
Wednesday, October 31, 2007
Fall is here!!!
On another note, I put Fritter in his costume last night, to make sure that it would fit. It did, perfectly and he loved it! He crawled around really fast in it, and when he saw himself in the mirror, he laughed and stood next to the mirror so he could admire himself. He really was very cute crawling around with a spiky green tail trailing after him. He even screeched like a dragon while he was crawling around. He is all boy.
Our Halloween plans are simple, dress up Fritter and hand out candy to other cute little ones. I used to be really big into dressing up myself for Halloween. I even went trick or treating (with little cousins of course) the last time at 18. Things are different now though. I am more and more realizing how secular things are, and how much I dislike that. This article takes it even further (language warning). So I think that for now we will dress up our little ones in cute little costumes, and celebrate Halloween at home with our family. I think I would really like to draw more attention to All Saints Day and All Souls Day, they are much more important holidays I think. I like Matilda's idea. We don't really have to place to do that yet, but eventually we will.
Monday, October 29, 2007
On Blogging...
The same friend that introduced me to Colleen Hammond, later introduced me to Danielle Bean. "Wow," I thought, "this is who I want to be like eventually". She was so real. She had bad days and good days. She was so honest about how she was feeling, and the everyday obstacles she encountered in her day. She became somewhat of a role model for me, and showed me what it meant to be a wife and a mother.
After that, I was hooked. I found other similar sites, like Minnesota Mom, Rosetta Stone, and Far Beyond Pearls. Other moms who were equally honest and equally real. Once we moved to Arizona, away from family, and away from supportive friends, these women took their place in some sense. I still had support that I needed.
Strange, isn't it? That I could feel support from people who had no idea who I was. I didn't even usually comment on their sites. I just read. These women were living their vocation faithfully. Some of them struggled in their faith sometimes, just like me, but they kept on, they kept going, and they kept trying. And they still do, and so do I. Now, there are quite a few blogs I read, and the list continues to grow. It has become a necessity for me to read them on a daily basis.
And then I do my own little part here. I come here, and open myself up, and pour it out here. And I try to be as honest as I can. And I try to be real. I may not have many readers, but that's OK. Maybe I am inspiring someone to keep on as well. And maybe not, and that's OK too.
Yummy Chocolate Cake
Sunday, October 28, 2007
Saturday, October 27, 2007
Mmm-Hmmm
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Friday, October 26, 2007
Getting Motivated
What is wrong with me? I've wondered. I know what I'm doing, but stopping my bad attitude is another story. Last evening after dinner, I needed time. Time to myself, to sit on my bed and do absolutely nothing. That's when it came to me. What has been different in my day is that before, I would wake up, make DH's lunch, and then sit on the couch and begin my morning prayers. Then I would plan my day under God's direction in prayer. And before Fritter woke up, I would even get in a small workout. I would even sneak in some extra prayer time throughout my day. This is what has changed. Lately I have been skipping out on my prayers completely. I have not been planning my day in Christ. I have been grumbling around with a chip on my shoulder.
I once read this article about burn-out. This was right after Fritter was born, when I was still in those "perfect life" days. I could not imagine ever getting burned out. I read the article anyway, because it looked interesting. Lately, some of the words written have been running through my head. "Burnout occurs when we are out of sync with God. It happens when we shoulder a yoke that is not His." What does this mean? I wondered. How could I be doing something that is out of sync with God. I am staying home with my son, keeping a clean house, fixing dinner for my family, researching ways to be a better wife and mother, along with the other countless tasks we all find ourselves doing daily.
The truth is, it wasn't something I was doing that was out of sync with God. It was something I wasn't doing. I was not offering my day up to him. I had an agenda. My agenda. And then I just got burned out. I have not be smiling, laughing, and enjoying life and my son. I have been grumpy, and tired, and making sure everyone in my family knew that. And then I could not see how I could possibly add in something else. Wouldn't that just use up more minutes of the day? Minutes I could be using sitting on the couch in the morning being grumpy. Yeah, you see the irony.
So today, I woke up, made DH his lunch, sat on the couch and said my morning prayers. Then I made coffee, turned off the news, and turned on EWTN. The rosary was on, so I grabbed Fritter's baby rosary, and my own, and sat on the floor with Fritter and said the rosary. And when he crawled away from me to explore something that needed exploring, I still said it, and I smiled at him when he explored my rosary, and played with his own. I am going to try to take a more relaxed look at things. And I am going to continue saying my morning prayers. Because I do not function without them. I am nothing without Christ.
Have a blessed day!
Thursday, October 25, 2007
Anne of Avonlea
Busy Days
Yesterday was Fritter's first day of all big people food! We have finally made the transition, and I think it went well. Wow, can he eat. This is his new menu, basically...
Tuesday, October 23, 2007
Sleepy-Tired
Now, I don't know about you, but I am very sensitive to sleep issues. Too much and I'm groggy and grumpy, and too little and I'm loopy and grumpy. I also become very sensitive emotionally. So yesterday I was fairly grumpy when DH came home from work. I think being a husband/father is a fast track way to sainthood, at least for my DH. He really becomes patient with me (for the most part) when I am like this. When we had leftovers for dinner, he didn't grumble, and he even sat at the table and ate it like it was fresh-out-of-the-oven.
After Fritter went to bed, we popped in a movie, Beyond the Gates. I was sure I would fall asleep quickly, but the movie really drew me in. Not the best movie when you're feeling emotional. Let's just say my eyes were covered for about a quarter of the movie and I cried several times. DH patiently would tell me when the bad parts were over, and in one such scene, a mother and her newborn baby are trying to make a run for it (if you know the story, they were Tutsi) and were overcome by Hutu. I plugged my ears and covered my eyes for the whole scene, and afterwards I asked DH if they got the baby, and he said, "Never mind, it doesn't matter" and left it at that.
I have to say, since my miscarriage, I have been very sensitive to anything with children. Maybe that's normal, I don't know. But I used to be able to move on quickly in movies, but lately I'm apt to just walk away from the movie and not even finish it. I did this with Zodiac. The part where the lady with the baby and they get in his car. I was done. I left and didn't ever finish it. DH did, and told me they got away. I hope that's true. I seems the most evil thing in the world to hurt a child. And I'm not sure if any of you have noticed, but the number of movies lately that have either an evil little kid or kids being hurt in it, seem to have increased. Or maybe I'm just noticing them more now.
Anyway, sorry this was such a whiny post. Today is going to be a better day. I have a full agenda and I am blessed with a wonderful husband and a sweet baby boy. God is good.
More Reasons to Have Kids
Sunday, October 21, 2007
Fall Colors Tour and More
Fritter did very well for only taking two small naps about 1/2 hour apiece. We went to dinner at a place called Black Bart's Steakhouse. All of the servers sing and dance while you eat. They sang this song which was very cool. They were all college students, but not necessarily drama or music majors. Our waitress was a biology major, with a lovely voice.
The ride home was quite long, but Fritter slept the whole way, so conversation was nice. I should be going, I will fill you in on more of our weekend maybe tomorrow. Have a blessed Sunday!
I am not the enemy
It is time for parents to understand that being in the driver’s seat as a parent means more than just sitting behind the wheel of the minivan. It is time for institutions to abandon their adversarial stance towards parents. They are to cooperate with my agenda for my child, not fight it. No one loves my child more than I do. I am not the enemy. I am the parent.
This post is so encouraging. It seems everything we do with our children nowadays must go against the "norm" and so, as Denise says, we are looked at as strange because we want to parent our children, not the school boards, or the AMA, or anybody else. Go read and be inspired.
Friday, October 19, 2007
Gone Fishing, well sort of...
Have a blessed Friday!
Thursday, October 18, 2007
Fascinating Womanhood

I am currently reading Fascinating Womanhood. I just received it this week thanks to Paperbackswap. I have to say. It is a very, very good book. Today's modern woman, however, probably would not like it. But I am not one of those women, and I do like it. Many of the things Helen Andelin talks about in this book are so true. From the back cover...
What makes a woman fascinating to her husband? What is happiness in marriage for a woman? These are just two of the questions Helen B. Andelin answers in the bestselling classic that has already brought new happiness and life to millions of marriages. FASCINATING WOMANHOOD offers timeless wisdom, practical advice, and old-fashioned values to meet the needs and challenges of today's fascinating woman. Inside you'll learn:
- What traits today's men find irresistible in a woman
- How to awaken a man's deepest feelings of love
- Eight rules for a successful relationship
- How to rekindle your love life
- How to bring out the best in your man--and reap the rewards
- Plus special advice for the working woman, and much more!
FASCINATING WOMANHOOD offers guidance for a new generation of women--happy, fulfilled, adored, and cherished--who want to rediscover the magic of their own feminine selves.
Sounds good, eh? It is. So in the first part there is an assignment. You are supposed to first write down 25 things that you like about yourself. It was interesting trying to come up with 25 things, not that I have low self-esteem or anything, just that finding things that I thought were worthy to go on my list. Then I set aside my ideals, and just went with it. This is what I came up with (If you're interested).
25 things I like about myself
- my lips (I went for the easy stuff first)
- my eyes
- I'm genuine
- I'm sympathetic
- I can be mischievous (Hey, that can be a good thing, right?)
- I'm creative
- I love God (this should really go first)
- I'm spiritual
- I am dedicated to improving myself
- I am a fairly good housekeeper
- I am a good mother
- I am loving
- I am giving
- I love comfort for myself and others
- I am becoming a decent cook
- I am a little bit of an activist
- I care about life
- I love to read
- I'm good at cross-stitching (I was reaching here)
- I have good intentions usually
- my feet
- I appreciate goodness
- I appreciate beauty
- I am very curious
- I appreciate music
Whew! That was a toughy! for the next part of the assignment, we were supposed to draw the little woman that you see above. That was my handy work in MS Paint, hey, I tried. Anyway, then you were supposed to list the characteristics of the ideal woman according to men that are in the book. The ones you have are to be put in pink (cute) and the ones you don't have (yet) are to be put in blue. So here goes...
Angelic Qualities
- Understands Men
- Inner Happiness
- Worthy Character
- Domestic Goddess (don't really like the wording here)
Human Qualities
- Is Feminine
- Radiates Happiness (I tend to scowl even when I don't mean to)
- Has Radiant Health
- Is Childlike
After doing this little exercise, you are supposed to pick one quality and work on it for a week, and see what the results are. I chose "Is Feminine". First, because I think this is the easiest quality to work, outside stuff is SO much easier than inside stuff. Second, because I really think I should work on this. I, more often then not, have my hair in a ponytail, and I rarely wear skirts or dresses, and even less often wear makeup. So this is what I'm working on now, and in a week, I will let you know my results.
Tell me, have you read this book? What did you think of it?
Wednesday, October 17, 2007
You have how many?
Traditional Latin Mass Answers
I still think that the Tridentine Mass was very beautiful, and I believe that we are going to try to make it once a month, while still attending our own parishes still lovely mass. The hard part for us is that because we don't know Latin all that well, ok not at all really, it is hard for us with a very loud 11 month old to really participate. I realize that will change eventually, but for now I think this is how we are going to do it. With practice, and help from this website, our Latin will improve and we will also know the responses better so we can actively participate in the Tridentine Mass.
Anyway, I hope this cleared up some things for those of you that were confused (namely me) and if you have anything to add, please comment.
God bless!
Tuesday, October 16, 2007
Days Gone By
It really is amazing how fast kids grow up. I look at some of my little cousins, who I actually remember being babies, and now they are in high school! When did this happen? Or my cousins' daughters who were these cute little almost 4 year olds at my wedding, and now they are cute kindergartners!
Pretty soon, my own little Fritter will be walking around, and then he will be talking, and before I know it, he'll be anxious to move out of the house and go to college. I miss him already. It's times like these that I realize how much now really means.
I never used to feel this way. I couldn't wait to be grown up. Then I couldn't wait to be out of college. Then I couldn't wait until we got a job and moved. It seems in all this "I can't wait" stuff, I didn't really enjoy the "while I'm here" stuff. I think, though, that God has given me the grace to slow down a bit and just enjoy right now. Fritter will walk soon enough, but for now, I'm going to enjoy his excited little crawls around the house, and how much fun he has exploring his ears and toes and fingers. I'll enjoy the other stuff when it happens.
Wow!
Bratwurst Basher
So anyway, we had just gotten done saying prayers, and I cut off a piece of my brat, a big piece. I didn't even have a chance to chew before it slid down my throat. I couldn't breath, I couldn't cough, I was choking on a piece of bratwurst. I know I'm joking around, but it was actually very serious. I stood up at the table, looked at DH, pointed to my throat, and he immediately got up and started doing the Heimlich maneuver on me. He did it about 10 times before he stopped and asked if I could breath yet. I couldn't. So he did it a few more times, and just like you see in the movies, the food flew out and landed on the floor. Gross.
So now my throat is messed up, I went to the doctor, and they said I have some esophageal damage but it should feel better in a few days. Until then, I sound like Grizzly Adams. I am also very sore from the Heimlich, but in my opinion that is a small price to pay, right? Oh, and I can only eat jello and apple juice. That should help me lose some of that remaining baby weight, huh?
Anyway, back to my busy week. My brother-in-law (Fritters God-father) is coming into town on Friday and will be here for the weekend, which is great. It also means getting the place livable for three adults. Because I really slacked off last week, I have quite a few extras to do this week. I also have training for a class that I am facilitating, and an evening reflection Friday night. So cleaning has to start now. It'll be worth it though when he gets here. Since we've moved here, we have been wanting family to come see us, and this will be the first time someone has, so it's very exciting. I'll keep you posted on how things go.
Sunday, October 14, 2007
Questions about Traditional Latin Mass
I'll probably come up with more questions before long. Maybe you have your own questions regarding the TLM. If so, feel free to post them here, and perhaps through discussion and research we will be enlightened about all of this. If you have any answers, I would also appreciate comments from you.
God bless!
Traditional Latin Mass Visited
I don't really have the words to say how awesome it was. All of the issues that we had had at any other place were non-existent here. No one leaving right after communion, the choir was in the loft where it should be, and the reverence; Oh! The reverence!
I must confess though, it was not what we expected. I thought that it was going to be mass like we are used to, only said in Latin. It's not. It's different. All of the things that make it a mass are present in both forms, but the Latin mass is really very different. We were lost for some of it, so after mass we went to the gift shop to get a Missal so that at home we can kind of study it a little bit and understand how things work, and also so in Mass, we can follow along.
The lady at the gift shop was very kind when I asked her if I had purchased the right Missal. (We did) She also said that they are having a hard time keeping them on the shelves! Thanks be to God!
As I was talking with the gift shop lady about the Mass, she mentioned to me that she was trying to get her husband to attend this mass with her. They have a chapel in their house (can you imagine?) where mass is said sometimes, (she mentioned they were working on building a monastery) and that one is in half Latin, half English.
And the families! There were children coming out of everybodies ears! Big vans were pulling up, and kids were just piling out of them! It was amazing. It really was neat to see a parish that is so alive and vibrant, and reverent. (Obviously, these seem to go hand-in-hand). We are definitely going back for more, and who knows, we may make this our home parish.
Saturday, October 13, 2007
State Fair and Baby Food
We rode on the Farris Wheel, which was nice, (even though I am deathly afraid of heights!). Fritter seemed to enjoy it until we went around by the tire that helps the ride move. It made a loud grrring sound, and scared him pretty bad. After a few times around, though, he calmed down. There was so much for him to look at. Isn't it fun to see your little ones see new things? It's like you see it for the first time.
On another note, I'm curious to know what you all do when you are transitioning your baby to table food. Do you just grind up whatever you're eating?Here is what Fritter is eating right now (he's just over 11 months):
7:30am Breakfast
1/4 cup Baby Oatmeal
2nd foods fruit mixed in cereal
Yobaby yogurt
Breastmilk
12:00pm Lunch
1/4 cup Baby Rice Cereal
2nd foods fruit mixed in cereal
3rd foods veggie
Breastmilk
4:30pm Snack
Breastmilk
Graham Crackers or Cheerios
6:00pm Dinner
1/4 cup Baby Rice Cereal
2nd foods fruit mixed in cereal
3rd foods Dinner
Breastmilk
maybe some juice
So I guess my question is, how do I change this so that he is eating more table food and less baby food. Is it too soon to make the change? If so, then when should I change and how do I do it? Any answers are appreciated.
Traditional Latin Mass
Friday, October 12, 2007
Easy fashion sense
I was doing some searching online today after watching What Not to Wear (I love that show!) and found this place. You enter your measurements into their templates, and then they not only tell you your body shape, but also your sizes, and you get a little personal shop that they fill with clothes that fit perfectly, and look great on your body as well. *Warning: not all these clothes are completely modest, unfortunately* Some of the clothes on the site are a little pricey, but maybe that is worth it to have something that looks and fits great. Oh! They also tell you which kinds of fabrics you should look for. There are some pretty good articles as well, like what colors look best on you, ect. It's free to sign up and you do all the measurements yourself. I didn't have one of these, so I just used a string for my measurements and then measured the string. It worked for me.
Anyway, for you fellow fashion-illiterates, check it out!
Pooh Quiz
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40 reasons to have kids
1. The smell of babies
2. Having your baby reach his arms up for you because he wants only you
3. My life would be pretty boring without my baby
4. The love my husband has for my son
5. The love my husband has for me that is renewed with our baby
6. Making babies is fun
7. Feeling your baby kick inside your womb
8. How excited your husband gets when the baby kicks him from your belly
9. The love you feel when you hold your child for the first time
10. Taking time out in you and your child's busy day to snuggle and nurse
11. The trust your child places in you
12. The never ending amount of cute face they make
13. Reading some stories you never read before, and revisiting old stories you love
14. The chance to raise a little person to love Christ
15. The chance to make the world a better place
16. Baby bellies
17. Baby toes
18. Baby waves
19. Slobbery kisses
20. Seeing your child interact with another for the first time
21. Picking out baby names
22. Wondering what your child will look like
23. Finding out your child looks nothing like you imagined
24. Stuffed animals
25. Seeing their face when they try a new food
26. Seeing their face when they don't like peas
27. Having an excuse to make cookies
28. The pride you feel when your baby takes his first steps
29. Baby claps
30. Having an excuse to go to the park on a nice day
31. Watching your baby sleep, because you will never see anything more peaceful
32. Knowing that your child is completely untainted by anything more than original sin
33. Watching them play and explore
34. Knowing that only you can comfort him
35. Being loved by someone so unconditionally
36. Having a purpose to your life
37. Baby clothes
38. Baby showers
39. Baby shoes that they never wear but are still really cute
40. Snuggly baby blankets
Hat tip to Sarah
Pulled from the shelves
Tylenol is pulling children's cold medicine from the shelves. Check labels and talk to your pediatrician if you have questions.
Thy will be done
Last night was a hard night. Since my miscarriage on August 20th, my cycles have been wacky. I've been trying to track them with my NFP, and I thought that things were going back to normal, but alas, it looks like a new cycle has begun. So thoughts of "is this normal after a miscarriage" began running through my head, and being the emotional person I am, ended up as, "This isn't normal, I'm not going to be able to have more kids, Fritter needs siblings, I want a big family" ect. These types of thoughts easily take over a persons mind, unfortunately. I know that I just need to follow God's will. So what if I can't have anymore babies, I have Fritter, and we can adopt. I guess it's just frustrating to me, because there are so many people who are not open to having babies ( I think we know where that discussion could lead) and here we are, completely open.
It's supposed to be about God's will though right, not mine? And, this could really be totally normal. I just don't know. DH was very comforting to me last night, and for that I am grateful. He is so logical, and sometimes that is what I need is for someone to talk me down from my emotional cliff. I know these doubts are the Enemy's way of getting to me, and trying to pull me from Christ. It's so easy to just start blaming God and doctor's for anything and everything, instead of just offering up my small amount of suffering (small in comparison with Christ's).
I really need to work on that. Becoming aware of my short-comings is not an easy task for me. I suppose that's where prayer comes in. Asking for the grace to accept his will (Thy will be done) and the grace to improve and love Him more.
Google Analytics
Anyway, I typed Statistics in my Blogger search on my Dashboard, and got a list and just followed the instructions. The last post was much more detailed. Oh well...
Format
Now if I could just figure out how to check my stats...
Thursday, October 11, 2007
Learning Latin
Also, while I'm on the subject of Latin, I would really like to attend a Traditional Latin Mass. I never have. As all of you know (yuck, yuck I'm the only reader) I am a convert to the Catholic faith. I came into the Church Easter 2005. So my experience is fairly limited. Also, I lived in Wyoming, and the access to a TLM is basically non-existant. But now that we live here in sunny Arizona, I hope to find a parish one day that does the TLM. My husband is all for it too.
Don't get me wrong, I am fine with going to our "regular" Sunday mass, but there are some things that bother me. Actually, I think they take away from the mass and celebration of the Eucharist, but I'm not an expert at all on this subject, so I'm not criticizing. The things that bother me personally is when the music is very LOUD and there are not traditional instruments playing. Like drums. I also feel, again personally, that if the music were put in the back of the church instead of up front, the peoples attention would be more likely to focus on Jesus and not Sammy over there playing rock music on his guitar. Also, I for one, really LIKE the traditional songs and really can't participate when I am handed a piece of paper with words to songs I have never heard before, instead of reading out of the hymn book.
Sorry, this wasn't supposed to be a whiny post. Just a small post to say where I am at in learning Latin. I got sidetracked. Well, I guess if anyone reads this blog, they will get used to that.